Self Empowerment and Responsibility
By Anne Jones
It is a fact that you can be responsible for no one but yourself. Although I would like to think you can be responsible for your children I doubt that too. After all once they can think for themselves they take their own responsibility. We can guide them and we can care for them but to be entirely responsible for their thoughts and actions and therefore the result of such is impossible, as most parents of teenagers experience. We are entirely responsible for everything that happens to us. That is quite a strong statement I know and maybe you wont entirely agree with this but, I have studied this and thought about it, perused and mulled over the entire subject of action and reaction for some time and I always come back to cause and effect. I have however, covered the karmic implications of this so here I would like to elaborate on the subject of being a victim. It is generally considered to be a mindset, a poor me syndrome. My friend Colette calls it "sitting on the pity pot". In other words it is a state of mind and being that we indulge in - or, should I say more kindly, that we can find ourselves adopting. It is most definitely a very debilitating and weakening state. When you are the victim you have no power, no source of correction, no way to reverse your circumstances because you place the power of action in the hands of the person, or group who you blame for your circumstances. While you blame someone else for your misfortune you cannot change it. If on the other hand you own the problem then you can make plans to solve it. Concentrate on your actions rather than those of others; make your own choices; remove the word blame from your vocabulary; this way you can become strong and empowered.
The other aspect of self-responsibility is one that I learnt early on when healing. I obviously wanted to help make the people who come to me feel better. Of course, not everyone who I see becomes healed. Some people who come to me are sick because they are learning a lesson of their own, a karmic situation that I should not interfere with, some do not want to get better because they are in the state of victim-hood and are reluctant to let it go - maybe they enjoy the sympathy they receive, and fortunately some are open and ready to heal. Whatever state they are in, whatever their mindset, everyone is responsible for their own healing and for the timing of this. They are given energy but it is up to them what they do with it. Some people rush home and clean the house from top to bottom with the energies they have received, others will use it to improve their health or fight a virus. It is impossible to force wellness upon someone. In my early days of healing I was devastated when a man I had been treating died. He had a brain tumour and I was so determined to cure him. I realised in hind site that the healing energies had brought him great peace and by the time he died he accepted his fate and hopefully, was happy to move on. It was a lesson to me to let go and to neither anticipate the result of his treatment or to take the responsibility on my own shoulders. It is a humbling experience helping others as we are always just there to offer what we can. It is also one of the most exciting and wonderful experiences in the world to offer someone a helping hand then see them move on to empower themselves, the state that comes from their making their own life choices. We are our own masters, we dictate and determine our own future and our own fate.
So you cannot be responsible for another person. You can love them and care for them but you cannot be responsible for them so there is absolutely no point in spending time and energy worrying about someone, no matter how close they are to you. In fact your negative thoughts or worry and concern will do more harm than good. Think of them well and happy. If they are ill see them free from pain and distress; if they are dying see them at peace and surrounded by love in the next world. Be your own master
(c) The Ripple Effect by Anne Jones, published by Judy Piatkus (Publishers) Ltd. (2003)
The books "Heal Yourself" "Healing Negative Energies" and "The Ripple Effect" by Anne Jones published by Piatkus can be purchased online at www.amazon.co.uk To contact Anne in Hong Kong please contact Zama. Telephone: 2850 6400. Email: info@zamaint.com
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